My life, my love...

A twenty-somethings guide to love, dating, fashion, and day-to-day life in the 'burbs.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Spring Forward

To mark the first day of spring, my best friend, Justine and I have decided to embark upon a 6 week quest to a healthier life. Justine turns 25 on June 13 which is why we picked the 6 week mark to really challenge ourselves. Yes, we want to shed some pounds, tone some muscle and probably try and tan some skin while we are at it but, we also want to break unhealthy eating habits and form better ones.

As I have heard many times before, diets do NOT work. I completely agree, diets usually fail because the best way to get in shape and stay in shape is to change your lifestyle. Justine and I are really trying form some healthy habits. While neither of us are complete junkies (although I have been called a garborater more than once) we both know there are areas we can improve upon.

Personally, I know that the biggest ways I sabotage my healthy eating habits are:
1) late night snacking
2)eating foods that I know I am sensitive to
3)succumbing to laziness and relying on fast food

I have a huge late night snacking addiction and I can ruin an entire day of making good food choices in just 15 minutes. Not only do I tend to binge eat at night, I know that consuming that many calories before I head to bed is just a set up for failure. To conquer this, I have decided to go cold turkey and set the rule of:
No eating after 9pm!

About a year ago I visited a naturopath in hopes of conquering a pretty bad case of eczema. I had allergy testing done and came up as sensitive to: all cow and goat dairy products, gluten and peanuts. She told me to cut all of these things out of my diet for at least 3 months with the hopes of it alleviating my eczema and a million other symptoms I didn't realize were the cause of a food allergy. I successfully did so with peanuts but had a couldn't forfeit dairy or gluten. Luckily, forgoing peanuts was enough to clear up my eczema. However, its been made pretty clear to me that dairy wrecks havoc on my digestion. I don't need to go into detail here but for the next six weeks I've decided to
 limit dairy to just milk in my morning coffee.

Justine and I both struggle with fast food. Neither of us are very domestic and to be frank, we both hate cooking. It can be easy to trick oneself into thinking you are making a healthy choice for fast food by going to Subway or Extreme Pita but there's no replacing home cooked food. Therefore, we have decided to be strict:
No Fast Food!!

Other than that, we are challenging ourselves to be more active by working out for 1 hour for at least 4 days a week. We are limiting our alcohol intake to 4 times in a 6 week period and we are trying to focus on eating more complex carbs and restricting our intake of simple carbs. Finally, we want to encorporate freshly squeezed juice into one meal per day.

This will be a challenge. But that's what life is about. Wish us luck!!



Also, check out our weekly diet v-log here!

Ash

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Losing my Expectations

My brain seems to be functioning on vacation mode still so I'm a day late with my posting this week but really, if I'm making my own schedule then I'm gonna let myself break it.

I do however, have a quotation that I have been wanting to share. At this point in time, I seem to be learning a lot about expectations. It's a lesson that comes up now and again for me and as I have expressed before I believe the universe will keep teaching a person a lesson until it is fully grasped. I read this the other day and loved it:

"Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance." - Unknown

I understand that having expectations only leads to disappointment but I tend to struggle with it because I find a great contradiction between setting goals and going with the flow. I also admit that I have difficulty with this because I like to be in control and I dislike when things don't go as planned. Goal setting is an important part of life and I know it is necessary, even just to prevent laziness. However, I can never seem to find the balance where I set goals but stay open and adaptable to the universe stepping in and giving me a push in a better direction.

I like my shared quotation because it gives me something to focus on.
Acceptance.

This week I will not lose sight of my goals but I will accept when a goal is not realized and look for my better way.


Ta - Ta !

Ash


Friday, April 20, 2012

sunshine, rum & lemonade

As promised, here is my Cuban Vacay 2012 re-cap!

My favourite part of vacations is all the inside jokes that are formed. From being told I look like a more attractive version of Sarah Michelle Gellar to witnessing another girl being told she looks like Chewbacca but different, I didn't stop laughing all week. You form such a tight knit group with the people you travel with and the people you meet and I've been laughing about all our fun times since I got home. Although there were no men who would let me put lipstick on them (and believe me, I asked) I had such a great week and I'm dying for my next vacation to begin! I, Buffy the Vampire Slayer dedicate this post to: Sags & Bags, the guidos, the hockey boys, raspy, Tanya from '16 and Pregnant', grillz, the lady who yelled "Well that was a rough landing" as we arrived in Varadero, and of course, Miss Alex Jay the cuban hooker and my cousin Sara.

Starting things off right in the VIP lounge

Ocean View Baby!!

This right here is my heaven


Beach Beauties

Lovin' life

We met guys from France. Apparently they don't have mini eggs there. They were very impressed


Catamaran Excursion! We're on a boat!

Nemo the dolphin, slippin' Sara some tongue

The beauty that is Cayo Blanco

Dancing to Pitbull in the ocean. Prolly one of the best moments of my life

Out dancing at International

Anthony, my guido friend forever

He's got a bat...

He's convinced I'm Buffy. and that we were in Mexico. and that its 2007.

Hockey players really do share everything.

The Last Sunset

Oh ya... Call me maybe? Or send a fax... or a page.

Until my next rum & lemonade or Miami Bays.

-Ash

Thursday, April 19, 2012

edge of glory

Ola!!

I'm baaaack and pretty much freckled from head to toe! My week was lovely and I will share a full update complete with pictures tomorrow!

My trip was complete with lots of sunning, nightlife, new friends and dancing but I want to express my gratitude for the couple moments of downtime I had on the trip. One of my favourite things about travelling south is getting to watch the sun set over the ocean. It makes me think clearly and I feel a sense of equilibrium that is often tough for me to find.

I have come back feeling refreshed and ready to work it! I know that I am moving forward, even if I sometimes feel like I am stumbling, I know I'm on the right path.

Today I am thankful for this sense of clarity and renewed energy to go full steam ahead.



Ash

Monday, April 9, 2012

Bye Bye Birdy!

This really is a happy Monday for me because in just over 24 hours, I'll be flying away to a much anticipated vacation! I had a lovely and relaxing Easter weekend and I hope everyone else did as well.

My quotation today comes from Don Miguel Ruiz and it reads,

"There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally"

If there is one lesson I'm learning right now it is this. It is incredibly tiring to take things personally and it serves no purpose. All of the things I want to acheive in life will come to me so much easier if I can plow through and let things roll off my back. This does not come easy to me and it is definitely a learned skill but one that I see as very important to work on.

I hope everyone has a great week, I know that I will!! I can't say that I'll be thinking about anything too heavily over the next week but this thought will definitley be in mind and I hope I've now put it in yours.

*Ash

Thursday, April 5, 2012

vacation essentials

At this time next week, I will be laying on the beach with the sun on my face and a bubba mug full of deliciousness! It's always a busy time, the week before a vacation so I have been behind on my posting but in the spirit of vacation I thought I would give you a run-down of some of my vacation essentials. From day-to-day necessitites, to fashion must haves, here's a list of what I cannot forget to pack!



* Hot Sauce! I guess this doesn't apply to every to trip I take but I am going to Cuba. While Cuba has beautiful beaches, fun nightlife, cheaper rates than many other carribbean it is not a destination known for it's cuisine. However, I did NOT find the food horrible! I found stuff to eat everyday, and I managed not to get sick the whole week. My biggest complaint about the food was that the majority of it was incredibly bland. This year I'm bringing hot sauce in hopes of making my food a little more enjoyable.


*A Bubba Mug. Thanks to a friend from work, last year I knew to bring myself a bubba mug. When you order drinks at the bar they serve you with small plastic cups, which are equivalent to about two gulps. Not only is a bubba a lifesaver at the beach because it keeps your water cold all day but when you're ready to get your drink on in the evening (or early afternoon) it saves you from multiple trips to the bar which often have long lineups. Cubans keep a slow pace and no one wants to lose their buzz waiting in a line!







*iPod Dock. Pump-up music while you're getting ready to go out at night? Check! Beats for party nights at you resort's nightime bar? Check! Trust me on this one

*Baby Wipes.  This is something I reccommend for any trip. Baby Wipes are great because they have alcohol in them. This means they'll clean your dirty beach feet in a way regular body wash can't. They also work great on clothing for food or makeup spills. Maybe people aren't as messy or accident prone as I am but I always bring them on trips and people are always glad I do!

*Air Freshener. Unless you have your own room, you'll be thankful for this tip.

*High-Waisted Shorts. I can't get enough of high waisted shorts! I think they are the perfect item to be dressed up or down. Put on a denim pair with a loose crop-top to head to the beach and then dress them up at night with a cute tucked in blouse in the evening. I have a denim and a black pair that will definitely be in my suitcase. 



 *A Cute flirty Dress. Once again, this item can be dressed up or down. Whether you want to throw it over you bikini and head to the beach or slap on some accesories to give it a nighttime feel, a little dress is a must! Personally I'm a fan of the classic LBD! 
*Last - but definitely NOT least on my list is, 


The Lucky Shirt! 

Good things always happen when I wear this shirt, and I know I don't go on vacation without it! 
Hope some of you are lucky enough to be heading somewhere fun this spring!!

Adios!
Ash

Monday, April 2, 2012

To Passion

On this sunny Monday, I am thinking about passion. What drives you and what makes your heart race. I'm not just talking about romance and relationship, I'm referring to your hobbies and interests. Today I am imagining a Monday morning where I wake up and feel excited to go to work. It can and will happen. My quotation to start your week comes from Rumi, and it reads:

"Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love"

How can we go wrong if we do?


Ash

Thursday, March 29, 2012

3 Days

Today I am thankful for,

  •  honest conversations with good friends.
  • A reminder that confidence is key
  • grilled cheese
  • My morning coffee
Most importantly, I am thankful that when I accidently used my parking break (which for those who didn't read yesterdays post, I am not supposed to use it until I get my car fixed on Saturday) I was on my Dad's street so he could come and unstick it for me again.

Habits are really hard to break guys, I hope I make it until Saturday.

Ash
 




Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Let Go...

Earlier this week, I was attemping to pull out of my driveway. I put my car into reverse, let off the clutch and gave it some gas. It wouldn't budge. I kept trying, and stalled. I pulled back up into my driveway and had my Dad come and investigate the problem later that evening. 

He determined that my parking break was stuck due to a problem with my back breaks. He managed to unstick the break and I'll be taking my car in this weekend to get it fixed. However, until then I cannot use my parking break. I have been taught that the "proper" way to park a standard car is to put it in neutral and pull the parking break, and that is what I have been doing for the past 4 months that I have been driving it. 

Four months doesn't seem like a long time, and in the grand scheme of things its not. But, four months is definitely enough time to make a habit that is really hard to break. It's incredible how much conscious thought it takes to rememeber one simple thing, as I park my car, DO NOT pull the parking break. 

This week, I have really been reflecting on how hard habits are to break. My first wisdom wednesday post was on fresh starts and working on improving myself. I think I am stating the obvious when I say that humans cling to habits and we are not great at breaking them. Sure, its hard to quit smoking or stop biting your nails but I think the hardest habits to break are behavioural ones because we are often completely unaware of them. Plus, if it only took four months to make my "parking break" habit, imagine how hard it is to unstick a habit that took a lifetime to make.

I can see some of my worst behavioural habits come out to play in my love life. I guess, it makes sense seeing as it is such a vulnerable area. I know that the key to breaking these habits is to make a change, consciously DO something different. Nevertheless, all that is easier said than done. Sometimes, its hard to know what to do differently or how to completely identify the destructive habit. Other times it might just feel super comfy to stay in our habits no matter how destructive they are.

I certainly don't know the complete solution to this dilemma but I think I've found a good way to begin, and that is to let go. In order to move forward, break bad habits, and find the kind of happiness and love I deserve and desire, I have to let go of the past. While it is not as if I am completely clinging to my romantic past because there is a lot I have come to terms with and let go of, however I know that there are many things (or people) I still hang on to. I also know that holding on to the past doesn't serve me in the present and will not do so in any moment in the future. As well, hanging on to my past also enables me to repeat my patterns and act in accordance with my habits. For example, I tend to hold back in a lot of romantic encounters due to a lack of confidence. Hanging onto the past and remembering rejections and unreciprocated feelings will certainely fuel me to hold back and will certainely NOT build my confidence.

This is going to be my new task, break the habit by letting go of the past. I encourage you to do so too. Stop and think about what you may be hanging onto that is encouraging you to repeat a pattern or act in accordance with a destructive habit.

I'll let everyone know if I can make it until Saturday without using my parking break.

Ash

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Turn that frown upside down

Because I am sure someone out there needs this just as much as I do.

10 Reason's to Smile Today

  1. It is officially spring, which means, that in terms of weather things can only get better from here on out.
  2. Have you seen all the mint green clothing that is on the racks this spring?  Love at first sight!
  3. BBQ season is so close I can almost smell the hamburgers!
  4. The days are getting longer and its filling me with all kinds of new energy
  5. I'm going on vacation in two weeks! I couldn't be looking more forward to the chance to escape life for a week!
  6. Pation season is right around the corner. Bring on the daquiri's, corona, mojitos, and ceasars! Pick your poison baby!
  7. The sun was out all day today and even though it was cold we know it won't be long until we can feel that sun.
  8. We've got a long weekend just around the corner!
  9. Speaking of the easter long weekend, mini eggs anyone?
  10. I am alive. And if you're reading this so are you!

Ash
     

Monday, March 26, 2012

Who I Am

T.G.I.M!!



Just Kidding... I can't lie, I'm sad to see my weekend go. On the bright side, there is another one just around the corner!

I would like to start the week with a quote shared by Tiny Buddha on twitter.

"It's not who you are that holds you back; it's who you think you're not." -Unknown

Lately, I have been trying to move forward in many areas of my life and when I struggle to do so or find roadblocks and obstacles in my path I keep coming to the same realization. I am the only person who is stopping me from realizing my goals and dreams. I have a lot of ideas of who I am not and I don't think they do me any good.

Here is to making a new start. Here is to moving forward and realizing who I am instead of what I think I am not.

-Ash

Friday, March 23, 2012

love for denim

Guys, I really love denim and I am not talking about just jeans. Denim shirts,
dresses, skirts, jackets, vests and even denim looking shoes.

Demin clothing is classic but it can be edgy if paired with the right items. I love to play around with different washes and see what goes best with darker and lighter shades. For example, I love pairing dark brown with a light wash denim. Denim clothing items are definitely on my "must have" list for spring. Here are some pieces I hope will inspire you to get into it as well!

Denim Jacket. $39.99 at H&M. Photo Source www.hm.com


Denim Dress. $98.00 at Levi's. Photo Source: www.levi.com

Very Denim-esque Toms $65. Photo Source: www.toms.com


Denim Blouse. $19.99 at H&M. Photo Source: www.hm.com


Mint Denim Vest. $23.80 at Forever 21. Photo Source: www.forever21.com


Pleated Denim Skirt. $19.90 at Forever 21. Photo Source: www.forever21.com



Hope everyone has a lovely weekend!!

Ash

Thursday, March 22, 2012

He ain't heavy...

Hey-ooo!

I apologize for skipping a post yesterday. Unfortunately, I couldn't get my act together and decided to enjoy the beautiful weather instead! That's also part of the reason I am posting so late today!

I want to express my gratitude today for someone in my family. Today I am thankful for my little brother, Johnny. Family is very important but its nice to consider people in your family your friend as well. Here's to my bro, who I am grateful for because:

*He always makes me laugh. Seriously, when we were kids he used to say "watermelon" and I would be in fits of laughter.
*He always tries to be there for everyone in my family. Somehow, he always sees the good in all of us.
*Although we share more of a friendship relationship his "serious" words to me this past new years meant a lot and ring in my head as I try and make this year my best one yet.


Really, this is just a test to see if he reads my blog like he said he would!





- Ash

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Spring Beatz

Spring is here!!
And, I for one could not be happier. For once in my Canadian born life it actually feels like spring. I think everyone is buzzing with excitement for what is ahead and I, for one, am not sad to say good-bye to winter.

For today's top 10 list I thought it would be fun to list some of my favourite songs that remind me of spring. Whether you're hanging on a patio, drinking with friends, talking an evening walk with your ipod or drivin' with your windows down, these songs are sure to give you some
spring fever!

  1. Give Me Everything - Pitbull ft. Ne-yo and afrojack. This song reminds me of last spring and all the great times I had with fun friends.
  2. Young, Wild & Free - Snoop Dogg & Wiz Khalifa ft. Bruno Mars. This song is definitely a little cheese and while I don't necessary endorse the lyrics there is something so fresh about the piano riff.
  3. Crazy on You - Heart. If you can find a better song to cruise around town, windows down with, I'll eat my hat.
  4. Home -Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros. Anyone else want to prance through a field, holding hands with a cute boy while eating berries and granola??
  5.  Houses of the Holy - Led Zeppelin. I just feel really cool when I walk around with my sunglasses to this song. I'm probably not though.
  6.  Call Me Maybe - Carly Rae Jepsen. I fully admit I can't get enough of this catchy new tune. It reminds me of being emersed in a crush before you can even blink. Spring is my favourite time to fall in like. 
  7.  I Heard it Through the Grapevine - Marvin Gaye. Pretty much any motown song makes me want to put on a short dress, sandals and slink my way up to the first cute guy I see
  8.  Alright Now - Free. Reminds me of the movie Now and Then, making me feel carefree, a feeling that springtime naturally brings about
  9.  Here Comes the Sun - The Beatles. Classic
  10.  Strawberry Swing -Coldplay - "And its such a perfect day"

Enjoy this early spring while you can and turn up the volume!

Ash


Monday, March 19, 2012

hope for the future

It's a beautiful Monday out there and I can't help but smile after having had a really fun weekend! Today I would like to share the note from the universe I recieved and dedicate it to two of my best friends, who may be feeling a bit blue.

 How'd you like a little peek into the future, Ashley? Oh, I really shouldn't, but, well, you so rock, I figure this indulgence, just once, will be all right.

You're sitting around a warm and cozy fireplace surrounded by friends and boisterous laughter. Early-morning snow gently falling across the countryside is visible from the enormous, ceiling-high windows beside you. Everyone is sipping hot chocolate, and reminiscing about the fabulous circumstances that have brought you together, brimming with excitement for times ahead. And then you chime in, "If only we'd seen it, we never would have been so hard on ourselves. If only we'd had just the slightest inkling that the challenges, lacks, and issues we faced back then were of our own exacting design, and that they'd soon make possible the whirlwind of events that so swiftly followed, we'd have been, well, as proud then as we are now... and every bit as photogenic."

And then everyone starts clapping, smiling, and taking lots of pictures.

Not a word to anyone,
    The Universe



I want them both to know, that sitting together, all four of us in Starbucks yesterday, felt a lot like this. Maybe we didn't have the best things to discuss but just having each other, is a great feeling in and of itself. There was a time in my life where the kind of friendship we share felt like a distant dream. So keep believing, hoping and dreaming. 

Ash

Friday, March 16, 2012

instagram style

G'day all! It's been a great week and I'm excited for the weekend! To kick off your weekend I thought I would share some of my style that I have captured through the photo sharing app, instagram. Enjoy!

Beautiful Makeup done by my best friend, Justine
Night out on the town


Retro Beaver Canoe, Christmas present from my brother


Stepping into spring with my cranberry Keds


Red lips + ray bans + porcelain skin


Necklace from BFF




Red nails, white wine. Always flashin' a peace sign


BFF'S


My most favourite ladies and I. Summer Nights


The coolest way to wear a party hat



Body Art.


Have a faboulous weekend everyone and a super fun St. Patricks Day!

-Ash

Thursday, March 15, 2012

hello sunshine

Although the sky looks ominous today, my gratitude on this thursday is all dedicated to mother nature. As my readers in the GTA know, we have had a beautiful week. Warm temperatures, sunny skies, and the air is buzzing with excitement for spring and summer. 

Last week I was feeling really bogged down with responsibilities and I had this exhausted feeling that I couldn't shake. As I whined my way through the week, I said to my dad at one point, "Why does life have to be so complicated?". He gently reminded me that 

"Life is only as complicated as you make it"

That is what this weather has been like for me. A gentle reminder that even when things are heavy, like the cold, windy day we had Saturday, it can be sunny and warm, and light, the very next day, as it was Sunday. It's easy to get wrapped up in a fog and forget that the sun will come out tomorrow. 

 I think thats enough weather metaphors for now.  

G'day! 

Ash

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Borrowed Wisdom

For today's edition of wisdom wednesday I am going to recommend that everyone go and read someones elses wisdom. I know I am copping out on writing a bit here but I read this article on Monday and haven't been able to get it outta my head since. It deals with stuff I have been wrestling with recently and it was exactly what I needed to read at the right time. Head on over to Tiny Buddha and read:



I don't even want to dissect it or add anything because it is perfect as is.

Enjoy!


-Ash

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

bikinify your bod

Today marks only 4 weeks until my much anticipated spring vacation to Cuba! Unfortunately, my body hasn't been exactly where I would want it to be for a week at the beach. While I am normally a big fan of the post breakup "heartbreak diet" or the post Cuba, "sick-with-a-parasite diet". Neither of those options are available to me right now. Thus, I've had to get creative and develop some new ways to get my body bikini ready! Here we go!

  1. Find an exercise you like! This probably seems obvious to many of you but I for one have never been a fan of the gym or any particular sport so it was a great place for me to start. In the name of fitness I have tried: pilates, yoga, kickboxing, personal training, jazzercise, aquafit, zumba, crossfit, running and spinning. Some I liked, some I hated (SPINNING) and some I liked enough to stick with. Right now I've been enjoying Body Pump and Zumba which I take at Good Life Fitness and Yoga which I practice at Power Yoga Canada
  2. Make an awesome working out playlist. I'll be honest, usually the only thing that keeps me on the treadmill for longer than 10 minutes, is the flow of some good music on my ipod. Some of my favourites include: Cinema - Benny Benassi ft. Gary Go, Marry the Night - Lady Gaga, Danza Kuduro - Don Omar & Lucenzo, Dreamer - Livin' Joy, Take On Me - a-ha, Shout - Isley Brothers.
  3. Treat yourself and shop for some new work-out clothes. For whatever reason, I still like to look semi presentable when I work out. Two of my favourite work-out pieces come from lululemon. I love the wunder under pants and the cool racer back tank.

Photo Source: Lululemon

4. Ponder over your favourite healthy foods. For me, healthy eating always seems like a bit of a chore. I'm not ashamed to admit that I love fatty foods, I'm very likely addicted to sugar and I very much enjoy salt. YUM! To make matters worse, I don't enjoying cooking and most healthy meals require a lot of preparation. However, I have to come to realize that there are quite a few healthy foods that I love to eat! Blueberries, tomatos, shrimp, rice crackers are just a couple of examples or healthy foods that I love and can feel excited about eating!
5. Prepare Food. Just to add to my healthy eating habits, I also love my fast food. I can fool myself by going to places like Subway and pretending I'm eating healthier but we all know fast food is not good for your body, or your wallet. I've gotten myself in the habit of bringing my lunch to work and that way I'm not easily swayed to go out.
6. Watch your liquid calories! I do a lot of drinking and most of it isn't water! I usually have 2 coffee's a day, I'm ashamed to admit I still drink pop and I would probably enjoy a glass of wine everyday if I could! However, I don't even think of beverages as calories but they are, and its amazing how much I can lower my daily caloric intake when I hold off on that second coffee, do away with the pop and save my wine for the weekend.
7. Step Away From the Scale. At first glance this one may seem counter-productive but I know in my experience, when I set out to lose some weight I only get side tracked when I get preoccupied with a silly number. It might be nice to weight yourself once in awhile but don't let yourself get obssessed with a weekly weigh in. Go by how you look, feel and how your clothes fit, those are usually better indicators.
8. Appreciate Your Body Here, Now, Today. Just be thankful that you have a healthy, functioning body to "obsess" over. It's easy to lose sight of.
9. Drink Water. When you're thirsty, drink water... when you're hungry, drink water... It always quenches, even when you think it won't.
10.Change your Thoughts. When trying to accomplish something, nothing can be more important than thinking positive empowing thoughts.
I will eat healthy.
I will exercise.
I will lose weight and tone my body.

and repeat...!

Good luck everyone!
Ash